Archive for October, 2015

2015, October 27

This week, indulge yourself

fall candleLast week’s assignment in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to indulge ourselves. As j phrased it, “You define it. What is pure indulgence for you? This week, do that.” And it’s exactly what I did.

One evening when I was home alone for about three hours (a rarity these days), I had an early dinner, took a shower and cosied into bed with three kitties and my tablet after lighting several scented candles. So relaxing… I definitely need to do this more often.
It was such a great feeling to just lay there, uninterrupted, browsing through Instagram and Pinterest by candlelight while the room filled up with Fall scents!

The assignment for Week 43 is to Be Unapologetic. Here’s what j says about apologies in the 52-52 guide, I fully agree… even though I’m fully a compulsive apologizer.
“A couple of years ago, I noticed how often I was apologizing. Reflexively. Because it was easier and certainly more expedient than an explanation. But it wasn’t just that I used an apology to swiftly discharge a potentially tense encounter or soften a difficult message, I apologized for the weather, for traffic, for all kinds of things that were not only not my fault, but nobody’s fault. I once apologized for being on vacation when someone was trying to reach me… and, honestly, I wasn’t sorry at all.
I know I’m not the only compulsive apologizer. It happens all the time – people apologizing for things they need not feel bad about. If you never do that, yay! This week will be easy for you. If you do, this is going to be tough, but absolutely worth it. For one week, only say you’re sorry if you truly owe someone an apology. Think about it first. Decide if it’s real. (Hint: If you bump into someone accidentally, the right term is “Excuse me,” not “I’m sorry.”) Be discerning. Say sorry only when you really, truly are.”

How was your week? Did you indulge yourself? Even in case you didn’t, let me know in the comments below: what does indulgence look like for you?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, October 20

Doodle… or do as I did and color ;)

Last week in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly the assignment was to Doodle.
I don’t doodle too often, especially since I started working on a laptop every day which drives my pen and paper usage somewhat lower than before.

As I mentioned in my previous blog post, j has some lovely coloring pages up on her website which one can print out and have fun with. (And in case you haven’t bought her “Art Out Loud” coloring book, you can do so either as a physical book, or as an instant download!)

I’ve printed out a few of j’s coloring pages last week at work and brought them home with me to color one evening. To my surprise, when my mom saw them, she immediately requested three! I’m glad she did though, and can’t wait to see them finished.

Below is the page I colored. I just love the little message to the right there, and that I used all of my colors! I never used to do that when I was a kid… I’d have “phases of colors” and stick to just a few. It was so much fun to color though, I think it should become a practice of mine…

Coloring page by Judy Clement Wall

Coloring page by Judy Clement Wall

The assignment for Week 42 is to Indulge Yourself.
“You define it. What is pure indulgence for you? This week, do that.”

How was your week? Did you doodle? Every day, or just a couple of times a week? Or did you color a coloring page instead? I’d love to see your creations if you’ve posted somewhere like Twitter, FB or Instagram. Leave me a link in the comments section below!

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, October 13

Start a new practice

The assignment for last week in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to start a new practice. To be truthful, try as I might, I simply couldn’t keep with starting one. Life has become much more complicated overnight, and it’ll be a couple of weeks before things get back to normal around here.
As silly as it might sound, at the moment I can’t bring myself to start something new. I need to feel less scattered before giving this a go.

It’s okay to be afraid sometimes. To be anxious. I have trouble believing that I have what I need to be okay. But the truth is that we all do—somehow, someway, we always do. I don’t always reach the realization that I do have the means to weather any storm. That I am stronger than I give myself credit for.

Two things I did do, on Sunday night (which was the tenth day that I felt rushed and stressed out, and quite depressed by Sunday afternoon, truth be told), was to go for a short walk with my boyfriend in a park we’ve never been to, and after getting home I declared: “while you’re watching the game, and mom’s watching TV, I’m taking a shower and reading in bed for two hours!”
If I didn’t have my book with me I would’ve been happy with just sitting and looking at the walls. I needed a bit of time to clear my mind.
That was it. That was all I needed. Two hours to myself in a quiet, cozy space. No interruptions. I felt so much more relaxed by the time my reading hours were up!

The assignment for Week 41 is to Doodle.
j explains that “doodling isn’t the same as drawing. It’s a game in which there is no object, an art form with no rules, which makes doing it badly or wrong impossible. The dictionary defines a doodle as “idle scribbling.” Seriously. What could be more harmless (and wonderful) than that? Doodles are like little wordless poems or sparkling fragments of dreams.”
I completely agree with this. And, I seriously need to do this in the following week. It’ll help ground me, I’m sure, while doodling something cute.
In case you’re still shaking your head “No!” at the thought of doodling something yourself, j has some lovely coloring pages up on her website which you could print out for yourself and have fun with. Who knows, you might like them and want her “Art Out Loud” coloring book, either as a physical book, or as an instant download!

How was your week? Did you start a new practice? What did you start? Was it easy to keep with it, or did you struggle? Will you keep this practice, or did it turn out to not be as fun/essential/useful as you first thought?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, October 6

Make a Not-To-Do List

The assignment for this past week in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to Make a Not-To-Do List. j was inspired for the assignment for this week by Danielle Laporte, who says that when we strive to do what we really want (love, are passionate about), the things we decide NOT to do are sometimes just as important as the things we decide to start or continue doing.

My boyfriend and I went on a trip to the Romanian seaside during our annual leave. It was sooo good to finally have a vacation! I said this assignment came in very handy, and that I’d write my list as soon as we arrived.
However, after turning on Skype for a few minutes on the second day of my annual leave, I was forced into staying online and sending some work e-mails/waiting for replies. The what I thought would be a few minutes turned into about an hour and a half! I was so frustrated about it, I decided to write my Not-To-Do List immediately.

So here it is, my vacation Not-To-Do List:

  • Don’t check work e-mail
  • Don’t turn on Skype
  • Don’t check e-mail except twice a day
  • Don’t get upset with Pixel for being stressed out (we took him with us)
  • Don’t spend more than ten minutes on Instagram or playing Ice Age Village
  • Don’t get upset for some vacation plans (visiting something, staying up late, going for a walk) not working out
  • Don’t stay up too late, reading

As you know, I’m currently reading Gretchen Rubin’s book, “Better than before”. In it, and on her blog, too, she talks about how she makes a list of the things she keeps putting off, and doing them during what she named Power Hour. Power Hour is an hours time to accomplish those one-time tasks that weigh on our mind, but could be—and probably already have been—indefinitely postponed.

While I didn’t really get these things done during only an hour, here’s what I included on my list of things to get done before hitting the road:

  • Update Windows
  • Finish two sewing projects (one finished, the other is half-done since it needs more supplies)
  • Clear cobwebs from corners
  • Place unused blankets and pillows into underbed storage bags
  • Rearrange books on the nightstand
  • Take summer clothes to mom’s, bring back fall clothes
  • Clean “50 books to read before you die” stainless steel bookmark
  • Sharpen pencil eyeliners

The assignment for Week 40 is to Start a New Practice.
Ever since watching Matt Cutts’s TED talk “Try Something New for 30 Days,” j has been enamored with the idea of changing your life incrementally, one small, sustainable habit at a time. “As Matt says, you can add something to your life (biking to work each day) or you can take something out (smoking); the key is that it’s small enough for you to truly get the feel of it in one week.”
I think this pairs well with my reading “Better than before”; let’s see what practice I’ll start.

How was your week? Did you write a Not-To-Do List? What was on it? In case you haven’t written one already, feel free to share a few items off it below in the comments. I’d love to know what the things you could stop to make room for more self-love are in your world.
And of course, feel free to share a Power Hour list, too! I’m really interested in what you guys put off doing and how similar our lists might be.

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

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