Archive for November, 2015

2015, November 24

Name the Moon

In the year of loving ourselves fearlessly, last week we were to Name the Moon.
I like this idea, and deliberately didn’t read the names j has come up with (which are included in the 52-52 guide) so that I got into this with fresh eyes. On the other hand, I totally stole the idea of writing my list as colorful as possible!

January:  Snowflake Moon

February: Queen of Hearts Moon

March: Snowdrops Moon

April: Kittens Moon

May: Candlelit Moon

June: Gratitude Moon

July: Lavender Moon

August: Fresh Lemonades Moon

September: Snore and Peace Moon

October: Blood-Orange Moon

November: Sweater Weather Moon

December: Mittens Moon

Back in 2011, when I created my own Seasonal Photo Challenge, I did something similar as I chose a theme for each month. They’re still up on my blog in case you’re wondering what they were.

The assignment for Week 47 is to Be Openly Magnificent. And I’ll paste here what j said about this week’s assignment, because she’s so awesome at phrasing these ideas!

“Instead of trying to fit in;
instead of making yourself small
so that other’s feel big;
instead of being quiet and polite and utterly acceptable,
be openly magnificent.
Shine.
Laugh loud and belly-deep.
Be the center of attention.
Flaunt your intelligence
your humor
your absolute grasp of the situation.
Strut.
Take up space. Meaningfully. Beautifully. Unapologetically.
Wear red.
Move to your own music.
Sway. Shimmy. Twirl.
Own your opinions, your mistakes, your triumphs.
Be fearlessly loving and unabashedly grateful.
This week,
live your life like you mean it.”

How was your week? Did you name the Moon? How fun did you find this exercise? Are your expectations higher for each month now?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

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2015, November 17

Perform a burning ceremony

The assignment for last week in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to perform a burning ceremony. Here’s how my friend j performs a burning ceremony:
“There are probably a lot of ways to do a burning ceremony. This is how I do it.
First, I write something down that I want to let go of. Usually, it’s a big thing, something I’ve wrestled with, written about, cried over; something I finally feel ready to release. Usually, it’s a thing that has left me angry or hurt, but twice, I’ve used a burning ceremony to let go of an unhealthy relationship.
So I write whatever it is on the paper and fold it up. I light a fire in the little portable pit in our backyard. Using tongs, I hold the paper over the fire until it catches, and then I watch it burn. I try to feel it inside me, the space that gets created, the power that replaces helplessness. I watch the paper burn and then drift away, unrecognizable, weightless … just ashes on the cold night air.
This week, burn away something big.”

I sat down last evening and wrote on a little piece of paper the things I want to let go of. They’re things I wanted to let go of in the past, from the past, but from the present as well. Things that I dislike feeling, hasty reactions that I dislike acting out, but which are “out” before my mind catches up with my thoughts. Things like feeling neglected, forgotten, unimportant, and things like being snappy and upset. I lit that piece of paper on the balcony, and sobbed as I watched it burn. I tried to truly let go. I’m not completely convinced it worked.

The assignment for Week 46 is to Name the Moon. j got this idea from Havi of The Fluent Self, who invited her tribe to name the moon with her. j says, “I like how it invites you to be creative, how by naming the full moons of your year, you might set a direction for yourself, create a story. Or just the opposite, naming moons on a whim and then watching time unfold, pre-labeled.”
I like this idea, and deliberately won’t read the names j has come up with (which are included in the 52-52 guide) so that I go into this with fresh ideas. On the other hand, I’m totally stealing the idea of writing my list as colorful as possible!

How was your week? Did you perform a burning ceremony? Have you performed one before, or do you periodically follow this ritual?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, November 10

Sweater weather is here!

November is flying by, and soon most of us will be back in hibernation mode with only a few mere hours of sunlight. (I know it’s definitely sweater weather when Pixel sleeps in and doesn’t wake us up at 5am anymore!) That is why I did my best to spend lots of time outside, trying to absorb as much vitamin D as humanly possible these past few weeks.

Will you take a Fall walk with me in my city? Here’s sending you over to Milliver’s Travels where my article, “Sweater weather in full force, Cluj-Napoca, Romania”, is all bright and colorful.

I hope you’re enjoying the beautiful Autumn weather as well, wherever you are in the world ;)

2015, November 10

Be Surprising

Last week’s assignment in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to Be Surprising. Honestly, I haven’t really given this assignment much thought before just now when I sat down to write about my week. So I could’ve been more surprising, I’m sure.

In any event, here’s the rundown of my last week:
I made lasagna (okay, so I technically bought it made, but popped it in the oven myself) for dinner, baked Panettone (this one from scratch), paid for mom’s massage, surprised friends on their birthdays, bought some Christmas presents early, and invited a colleague to lunch.
It was a good week!

The assignment for Week 45 is to Perform a Burning Ceremony. Here’s what j says about it in the 52-52 guide, since she explains so well how she performs a burning ceremony.
“There are probably a lot of ways to do a burning ceremony. This is how I do it.
First, I write something down that I want to let go of. Usually, it’s a big thing, something I’ve wrestled with, written about, cried over; something I finally feel ready to release. Usually, it’s a thing that has left me angry or hurt, but twice, I’ve used a burning ceremony to let go of an unhealthy relationship.
So I write whatever it is on the paper and fold it up. I light a fire in the little portable pit in our backyard. Using tongs, I hold the paper over the fire until it catches, and then I watch it burn. I try to feel it inside me, the space that gets created, the power that replaces helplessness. I watch the paper burn and then drift away, unrecognizable, weightless … just ashes on the cold night air.
This week, burn away something big.”

How was your week? Were you surprising? Did you have to make a mental note of it or did it come naturally? Did you notice people being surprising to you/around you?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, November 3

Be Unapologetic

In the year of loving ourselves fearlessly, last week we were to Be Unapologetic. And it was as tough as I predicted, especially since a friend recently asked me “Why are you always so apologetic?” after I’d apologized for sending him a link to a song he didn’t like too much.

You know those movie or cartoon situations when someone’s irritated by the other person who says “sorry” too many times? And they tell them to stop it, and then the other person instinctively wants to apologize for it?
Yeah, that’s me…

My friend pointed out that I say “sorry” for any kind of small thing. Like if he didn’t agree with something I said, I’d say sorry. If I offered a suggestion he wouldn’t implement, I’d say sorry. And in more than half the time the situation didn’t call for “sorry”, because it wasn’t like I did or said something wrong. He advised me to be more mindful of this and not say “sorry” unless I actually made mistakes.

This past week, after I misread something he wrote and he pointed it out jokingly in capital letters, I simply said “Oh, I misread that. Oops.”
He asked me “So… no sorry this time?”, to which I replied “Nope.” We had a good laugh!
I did my best. And yay, at least three times I managed to hold my tongue instead of apologizing for things that are nobody’s fault. I really need to think about it first. Decide if it’s real. Be discerning. And then say sorry only when I really, truly am (just like j noted.)

The assignment for Week 44 is to Be Surprising. It was recently pointed out to me that I should let loose more often, be more lively. It pairs well with this week’s assignment. Here’s what j says about it:
“It’s so easy these days to find yourself on autopilot, your mind ticking through your to-do list as you run from place to place getting shit done. […] This week, surprise yourself. Surprise other people. Do things that are unexpected. Do things you wouldn’t ordinarily do. Leave a flower for the mail carrier. Study the sky. Invite someone to coffee. Blow a kiss. Be irreverent, silly, unabashedly devoted.”

How was your week? Are you also a compulsive apologizer? Did you manage to keep the apologies to only times when you truly owed someone an apology?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

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