The assignment for last week in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to perform a burning ceremony. Here’s how my friend j performs a burning ceremony:
“There are probably a lot of ways to do a burning ceremony. This is how I do it.
First, I write something down that I want to let go of. Usually, it’s a big thing, something I’ve wrestled with, written about, cried over; something I finally feel ready to release. Usually, it’s a thing that has left me angry or hurt, but twice, I’ve used a burning ceremony to let go of an unhealthy relationship.
So I write whatever it is on the paper and fold it up. I light a fire in the little portable pit in our backyard. Using tongs, I hold the paper over the fire until it catches, and then I watch it burn. I try to feel it inside me, the space that gets created, the power that replaces helplessness. I watch the paper burn and then drift away, unrecognizable, weightless … just ashes on the cold night air.
This week, burn away something big.”
I sat down last evening and wrote on a little piece of paper the things I want to let go of. They’re things I wanted to let go of in the past, from the past, but from the present as well. Things that I dislike feeling, hasty reactions that I dislike acting out, but which are “out” before my mind catches up with my thoughts. Things like feeling neglected, forgotten, unimportant, and things like being snappy and upset. I lit that piece of paper on the balcony, and sobbed as I watched it burn. I tried to truly let go. I’m not completely convinced it worked.
The assignment for Week 46 is to Name the Moon. j got this idea from Havi of The Fluent Self, who invited her tribe to name the moon with her. j says, “I like how it invites you to be creative, how by naming the full moons of your year, you might set a direction for yourself, create a story. Or just the opposite, naming moons on a whim and then watching time unfold, pre-labeled.”
I like this idea, and deliberately won’t read the names j has come up with (which are included in the 52-52 guide) so that I go into this with fresh ideas. On the other hand, I’m totally stealing the idea of writing my list as colorful as possible!
How was your week? Did you perform a burning ceremony? Have you performed one before, or do you periodically follow this ritual?
PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.