Things I won’t achieve by 31

With my birthday in mind, I thought it would be interesting to reflect on a couple of things that I haven’t achieved. The blog post won’t be a bummer though, I promise.

While the things listed below are definitely things I haven’t achieved, they are also things that I figured I would achieve or thought that I should achieve like anyone who has their life figured out at 30, let alone by the time they reach 31.

  1. Live with a friend – I’ve only ever lived at home with my mom/grandparents, with my ex boyfriend for a while, and with my current boyfriend for the past 4 years. Thinking back to my childhood however, I recall playing house with my friends and with several of them along the years, depending who I was closer with, discussing with how when we’d grow up, we’d get a place of our own and be roommates. We’d plan for what our apartment would look like from furniture to the pet we’d own, and even the plants on our window sills.
  2. Work as a teacher, veterinarian, stewardess, interior designer – These were the top ideas I had for what I would become when I grew up/finished school. Now, I don’t want to be any of these things.
  3. Live abroad – This one might still be in the cards, since it’s not necessarily age-related, but I’m including it here, because I was actively searching for a job and trying to move abroad around eight years ago. I don’t regret it now, yet, had I not taken the job at the curtain shop in 2012, I could currently be living in the UK where the family whose little girl I was babysitting moved and where they took their nanny who came after me.
  4. Get married – Nine years ago, I was engaged. Before I broke things off, I figured I’d be married within two years time. Well, I’m glad I wasn’t, because in hindsight, it probably would’ve ended in divorce, like a lot of my high school friends’ marriages who got married before they turned 25.
  5. Have kids – I imagined I’d have kids one day. Goes almost hand in hand with the above one since I wouldn’t want kids before I got married. But honestly? It is such an expectation from society that one gets married and has kids, that until recent years I didn’t even stop to think if it’s only outside influences or my own wish. I’ve discovered that I probably don’t actually want to have kids.
  6. Write this blog post on time – I started the draft in March. My birthday was in May. My regular posting schedule is Friday and I am hitting publish on Monday, so on top the previously mentioned, this is also back-dated.

We make assumptions, we expect things to go a certain way, but Life doesn’t work like that. On the other hand, let me see a show of hands – have you had your life all figured out by the time you reached 30 or 31, or are you still working on it at insert current age here? What are some of the things you didn’t get to do/accomplish that you don’t regret?

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2 Comments to “Things I won’t achieve by 31”

  1. I’m so glad you won’t get married and have kids unless you want to. For one thing, the population explosion on this planet is horrific—and yet, I still see couples having three or four children (and I know some who have 8 or even more because of their religion).

    The mental image of you and your friends playing house and planning what your apartment would look like, from furniture to the pet you’d own, and even the plants on your window sills, was adorable!

    Not only did I not have my life worked out by 30 (which seems to be a Millennials thing) I still don’t have it worked out at age 58. (There are good and bad parts to that.) I’m not the type who can live the conventional life path, so the freedom I have feels good.

  2. Love this post and will write you a snail mail letter soon!

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