Posts tagged ‘engagement’

2009, September 17

Will you be mine? by Estrella Azul

“ He felt nervous.
This has been on his mind for the last 3 weeks, if not more, and he just wanted it to be perfect, or as close to perfect as he could get.
Counting down the days his nervousness grew.

At night he was dreaming of various scenarios it would go by and all of them had some flaw he didn’t think of before and made him more worried.
More possibilities ran across his mind like if it had rained and he wasn’t ready he didn’t have anything romantic planned.
Should he take her to dinner and ask her there?
Have his friend help him and decorate the room for when they get home?
Should he do it somewhere else instead of the lake but still outdoors?
Or visit the high school where they met and do it there?

Finally Wednesday arrived, the day of their anniversary. The beauty of it was that it wasn’t a round number like 1 year, 2 years so they’d celebrate luxuriously.
She couldn’t have figured out his intentions too easily.

They made plans to take a walk by the lake and catch a movie afterwards.
His plans however were a bit different.

While prepping to go he looked at his girlfriend getting ready.

She looked beautiful!
Her long amazing hair arranged very simple reminded him of the first day he saw her, her way of applying make-up and still look sweet and natural, her semi-formal outfit were all perfect for the occasion, but he couldn’t tell her yet.

They left for the lake.
To hide the ring he told her he was bringing two phones and made sure she wouldn’t ask any questions about his pocket by making his speech very short and technical.

By the time they got to the lake he had his eye on his watch just to be sure they have enough time.
He knew he would have his work cut out for him as they went past the peer.

He asked is she wanted to go for a ride with the paddle boat.
The water was deep, she was afraid a bit, but her confidence in him made her accept.
He was now thrilled and more nervous than before.

They got into the paddle boat and paddled away, going along the edge of the lake, then when his girlfriend was comfortable with the ride he aimed the center of the lake.
There, he stopped and they enjoyed the view.
Asking her to take photos, while she turned away, he took the ring out of his pocket and waited for her to turn back.

Those few seconds passed even slower than the hole time he had spent planning the proposal.

When she turned back facing him and saw the ring:
everything made even more sense to him than before, her shock and happiness was glowing on her face, he remained speechless.

After a moment he regained his thinking and while placing the ring on her finger asked her the question they were both waiting for… for so long:

“Will you be mine?”

As she said:

“Yes!”

He realized how truly blessed he was. His happiness couldn’t even been described as they sat there hugging and kissing.

After taking her to dinner and watching a romantic movie, on the way home they stopped again for a few moments at the lake and stared into the dark waves.

He did it: managed to turn that day into one of the most perfect and romantic ones they had.

She couldn’t have imagined a more beautiful and meaningful proposal!  

In the morning after the proposal, he got this letter from his fiancée.

 

“Sweetheart!

I know how good we are together, I know how unbelievably lucky we are to have found each other, how we still love each other as much as we did in the beginning and every time we say "I love you!" we actually mean it, and that we worked out how to be together. I know how fortunate we are to both want the same things, and most importantly – each other. I know we both get crazy sometimes but ultimately we have the best thing going and I want to say: ‘I want to keep this’.

I believe that you and I will do all the things we want to do together. I believe that in a while from now we’ll have our own remodeled house, our own children (in time) and our own individual lives in many ways too. I believe that we will be our own family.
I don’t believe in big weddings, or rather, I don’t think that they’re an accurate reflection of what it’s all about. What I want is the promise, the rings on our fingers and the future. I’m delighted because this is the nicest feeling in the world: to love you so much that I want to do something apparently quite random, just because I can’t help thinking that surely there must be some big way to express the way I feel about you, and about us, and our intentions. Getting engaged and married is about choosing to be tied together just in order to be together even homeless, childless or otherwise.

I believe that I can promise to love you until the day I die. And I believe that, if we can work out together what it means to us, making a promise and a commitment to one another can only strengthen the incredible bond we already have.

So… since I believe all this can and will happen, all I have to say is: Yes, Sweetheart! :*:P

I love you, always had and always will!” :*:P

He felt good, happy and more in love with her as he would’ve imagined 3 years, 9 moths and 1 day ago.”

 

Based on a true story.

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2009, September 17

Picking out the engagement ring: together or not?

 


This is an old blog post. The story is now a distant, beautiful memory.




As a girl, I can only say picking out your own engagement ring or being surprised with it isn’t a good statement as a general rule. I really think it depends on the couple.
If they are comfortable with choosing a ring together than it’s their decision and no one can/nor should change their mind.
The engagement is all about a couple’s love for one another,
wanting to spend the rest of their life together, with or without an engagement ring, picked out together or being surprised with it.

On a more personal note, I have picked out my own engagement ring.
It was supposed to be a surprise, my Sweetheart knew I really liked a ring I have saved a photo of ages ago (he found it) and he tried to have it custom made for me.
The jeweler assured him he could do it, but when it was done… it really wasn’t anything like the photo. He didn’t like it, so just to make sure, he showed me a photo of it and I didn’t like it either. Thank goodness he could return it.
So one day when we went for a walk he surprised me by taking me ring shopping. We had fun, we both stated our opinion and chose accordingly.
He could’ve just given me the money so I could buy whatever I wanted, but I was very happy to be able to see how he imagined it, and share this moment with him.
I’m not a material person, I don’t see price tags when I look at anything I own, on presents I got, etc. and I most certainly didn’t want him to buy an expensive ring (although he wanted to buy a diamond ring at first).
Finally we ended up buying a very nice white gold Cubic Zirconia ring. I love it so much!
I’m happy to have found such a beautiful ring, stating his love for me, as the symbol of being engaged since this is the custom. Although I chose a slightly (more) unconventional ring. We love it, that’s what’s important!

I don’t know about anyone else, I can only speak in my own name when I say this, but I was very happy he showed me the first ring so I could tell him I didn’t like it. Going ring shopping together was amazing, I didn’t know before how much attentive he was to the details of it, how much effort he had put in it and how much my opinion mattered. He genuinely wanted me to be happy with it.
I will wear the ring we bought close to forever. I love it and won’t stop wearing it just because we’re married, I’ll just place it on another finger.

So as a note for couples: do what best suits your relationship! You are the only two people who know what would be best!

The engagement isn’t about picking out a ring (together or not), that’s just one part of the engagement.

This post was inspired by this article on Pillowchats.com the content of it being from my comments there. I felt strongly about sharing my opinion here too.

What’s your opinion? Would you like to be surprised or go ring shopping together? (Or what would’ve you liked?) Feel free to share.

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