Posts tagged ‘j’s Love Project’

2015, November 24

Name the Moon

In the year of loving ourselves fearlessly, last week we were to Name the Moon.
I like this idea, and deliberately didn’t read the names j has come up with (which are included in the 52-52 guide) so that I got into this with fresh eyes. On the other hand, I totally stole the idea of writing my list as colorful as possible!

January:  Snowflake Moon

February: Queen of Hearts Moon

March: Snowdrops Moon

April: Kittens Moon

May: Candlelit Moon

June: Gratitude Moon

July: Lavender Moon

August: Fresh Lemonades Moon

September: Snore and Peace Moon

October: Blood-Orange Moon

November: Sweater Weather Moon

December: Mittens Moon

Back in 2011, when I created my own Seasonal Photo Challenge, I did something similar as I chose a theme for each month. They’re still up on my blog in case you’re wondering what they were.

The assignment for Week 47 is to Be Openly Magnificent. And I’ll paste here what j said about this week’s assignment, because she’s so awesome at phrasing these ideas!

“Instead of trying to fit in;
instead of making yourself small
so that other’s feel big;
instead of being quiet and polite and utterly acceptable,
be openly magnificent.
Shine.
Laugh loud and belly-deep.
Be the center of attention.
Flaunt your intelligence
your humor
your absolute grasp of the situation.
Strut.
Take up space. Meaningfully. Beautifully. Unapologetically.
Wear red.
Move to your own music.
Sway. Shimmy. Twirl.
Own your opinions, your mistakes, your triumphs.
Be fearlessly loving and unabashedly grateful.
This week,
live your life like you mean it.”

How was your week? Did you name the Moon? How fun did you find this exercise? Are your expectations higher for each month now?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, November 17

Perform a burning ceremony

The assignment for last week in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to perform a burning ceremony. Here’s how my friend j performs a burning ceremony:
“There are probably a lot of ways to do a burning ceremony. This is how I do it.
First, I write something down that I want to let go of. Usually, it’s a big thing, something I’ve wrestled with, written about, cried over; something I finally feel ready to release. Usually, it’s a thing that has left me angry or hurt, but twice, I’ve used a burning ceremony to let go of an unhealthy relationship.
So I write whatever it is on the paper and fold it up. I light a fire in the little portable pit in our backyard. Using tongs, I hold the paper over the fire until it catches, and then I watch it burn. I try to feel it inside me, the space that gets created, the power that replaces helplessness. I watch the paper burn and then drift away, unrecognizable, weightless … just ashes on the cold night air.
This week, burn away something big.”

I sat down last evening and wrote on a little piece of paper the things I want to let go of. They’re things I wanted to let go of in the past, from the past, but from the present as well. Things that I dislike feeling, hasty reactions that I dislike acting out, but which are “out” before my mind catches up with my thoughts. Things like feeling neglected, forgotten, unimportant, and things like being snappy and upset. I lit that piece of paper on the balcony, and sobbed as I watched it burn. I tried to truly let go. I’m not completely convinced it worked.

The assignment for Week 46 is to Name the Moon. j got this idea from Havi of The Fluent Self, who invited her tribe to name the moon with her. j says, “I like how it invites you to be creative, how by naming the full moons of your year, you might set a direction for yourself, create a story. Or just the opposite, naming moons on a whim and then watching time unfold, pre-labeled.”
I like this idea, and deliberately won’t read the names j has come up with (which are included in the 52-52 guide) so that I go into this with fresh ideas. On the other hand, I’m totally stealing the idea of writing my list as colorful as possible!

How was your week? Did you perform a burning ceremony? Have you performed one before, or do you periodically follow this ritual?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, November 10

Be Surprising

Last week’s assignment in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to Be Surprising. Honestly, I haven’t really given this assignment much thought before just now when I sat down to write about my week. So I could’ve been more surprising, I’m sure.

In any event, here’s the rundown of my last week:
I made lasagna (okay, so I technically bought it made, but popped it in the oven myself) for dinner, baked Panettone (this one from scratch), paid for mom’s massage, surprised friends on their birthdays, bought some Christmas presents early, and invited a colleague to lunch.
It was a good week!

The assignment for Week 45 is to Perform a Burning Ceremony. Here’s what j says about it in the 52-52 guide, since she explains so well how she performs a burning ceremony.
“There are probably a lot of ways to do a burning ceremony. This is how I do it.
First, I write something down that I want to let go of. Usually, it’s a big thing, something I’ve wrestled with, written about, cried over; something I finally feel ready to release. Usually, it’s a thing that has left me angry or hurt, but twice, I’ve used a burning ceremony to let go of an unhealthy relationship.
So I write whatever it is on the paper and fold it up. I light a fire in the little portable pit in our backyard. Using tongs, I hold the paper over the fire until it catches, and then I watch it burn. I try to feel it inside me, the space that gets created, the power that replaces helplessness. I watch the paper burn and then drift away, unrecognizable, weightless … just ashes on the cold night air.
This week, burn away something big.”

How was your week? Were you surprising? Did you have to make a mental note of it or did it come naturally? Did you notice people being surprising to you/around you?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, November 3

Be Unapologetic

In the year of loving ourselves fearlessly, last week we were to Be Unapologetic. And it was as tough as I predicted, especially since a friend recently asked me “Why are you always so apologetic?” after I’d apologized for sending him a link to a song he didn’t like too much.

You know those movie or cartoon situations when someone’s irritated by the other person who says “sorry” too many times? And they tell them to stop it, and then the other person instinctively wants to apologize for it?
Yeah, that’s me…

My friend pointed out that I say “sorry” for any kind of small thing. Like if he didn’t agree with something I said, I’d say sorry. If I offered a suggestion he wouldn’t implement, I’d say sorry. And in more than half the time the situation didn’t call for “sorry”, because it wasn’t like I did or said something wrong. He advised me to be more mindful of this and not say “sorry” unless I actually made mistakes.

This past week, after I misread something he wrote and he pointed it out jokingly in capital letters, I simply said “Oh, I misread that. Oops.”
He asked me “So… no sorry this time?”, to which I replied “Nope.” We had a good laugh!
I did my best. And yay, at least three times I managed to hold my tongue instead of apologizing for things that are nobody’s fault. I really need to think about it first. Decide if it’s real. Be discerning. And then say sorry only when I really, truly am (just like j noted.)

The assignment for Week 44 is to Be Surprising. It was recently pointed out to me that I should let loose more often, be more lively. It pairs well with this week’s assignment. Here’s what j says about it:
“It’s so easy these days to find yourself on autopilot, your mind ticking through your to-do list as you run from place to place getting shit done. […] This week, surprise yourself. Surprise other people. Do things that are unexpected. Do things you wouldn’t ordinarily do. Leave a flower for the mail carrier. Study the sky. Invite someone to coffee. Blow a kiss. Be irreverent, silly, unabashedly devoted.”

How was your week? Are you also a compulsive apologizer? Did you manage to keep the apologies to only times when you truly owed someone an apology?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, October 27

This week, indulge yourself

fall candleLast week’s assignment in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to indulge ourselves. As j phrased it, “You define it. What is pure indulgence for you? This week, do that.” And it’s exactly what I did.

One evening when I was home alone for about three hours (a rarity these days), I had an early dinner, took a shower and cosied into bed with three kitties and my tablet after lighting several scented candles. So relaxing… I definitely need to do this more often.
It was such a great feeling to just lay there, uninterrupted, browsing through Instagram and Pinterest by candlelight while the room filled up with Fall scents!

The assignment for Week 43 is to Be Unapologetic. Here’s what j says about apologies in the 52-52 guide, I fully agree… even though I’m fully a compulsive apologizer.
“A couple of years ago, I noticed how often I was apologizing. Reflexively. Because it was easier and certainly more expedient than an explanation. But it wasn’t just that I used an apology to swiftly discharge a potentially tense encounter or soften a difficult message, I apologized for the weather, for traffic, for all kinds of things that were not only not my fault, but nobody’s fault. I once apologized for being on vacation when someone was trying to reach me… and, honestly, I wasn’t sorry at all.
I know I’m not the only compulsive apologizer. It happens all the time – people apologizing for things they need not feel bad about. If you never do that, yay! This week will be easy for you. If you do, this is going to be tough, but absolutely worth it. For one week, only say you’re sorry if you truly owe someone an apology. Think about it first. Decide if it’s real. (Hint: If you bump into someone accidentally, the right term is “Excuse me,” not “I’m sorry.”) Be discerning. Say sorry only when you really, truly are.”

How was your week? Did you indulge yourself? Even in case you didn’t, let me know in the comments below: what does indulgence look like for you?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, October 20

Doodle… or do as I did and color ;)

Last week in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly the assignment was to Doodle.
I don’t doodle too often, especially since I started working on a laptop every day which drives my pen and paper usage somewhat lower than before.

As I mentioned in my previous blog post, j has some lovely coloring pages up on her website which one can print out and have fun with. (And in case you haven’t bought her “Art Out Loud” coloring book, you can do so either as a physical book, or as an instant download!)

I’ve printed out a few of j’s coloring pages last week at work and brought them home with me to color one evening. To my surprise, when my mom saw them, she immediately requested three! I’m glad she did though, and can’t wait to see them finished.

Below is the page I colored. I just love the little message to the right there, and that I used all of my colors! I never used to do that when I was a kid… I’d have “phases of colors” and stick to just a few. It was so much fun to color though, I think it should become a practice of mine…

Coloring page by Judy Clement Wall

Coloring page by Judy Clement Wall

The assignment for Week 42 is to Indulge Yourself.
“You define it. What is pure indulgence for you? This week, do that.”

How was your week? Did you doodle? Every day, or just a couple of times a week? Or did you color a coloring page instead? I’d love to see your creations if you’ve posted somewhere like Twitter, FB or Instagram. Leave me a link in the comments section below!

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

2015, October 13

Start a new practice

The assignment for last week in the year of loving ourselves fearlessly was to start a new practice. To be truthful, try as I might, I simply couldn’t keep with starting one. Life has become much more complicated overnight, and it’ll be a couple of weeks before things get back to normal around here.
As silly as it might sound, at the moment I can’t bring myself to start something new. I need to feel less scattered before giving this a go.

It’s okay to be afraid sometimes. To be anxious. I have trouble believing that I have what I need to be okay. But the truth is that we all do—somehow, someway, we always do. I don’t always reach the realization that I do have the means to weather any storm. That I am stronger than I give myself credit for.

Two things I did do, on Sunday night (which was the tenth day that I felt rushed and stressed out, and quite depressed by Sunday afternoon, truth be told), was to go for a short walk with my boyfriend in a park we’ve never been to, and after getting home I declared: “while you’re watching the game, and mom’s watching TV, I’m taking a shower and reading in bed for two hours!”
If I didn’t have my book with me I would’ve been happy with just sitting and looking at the walls. I needed a bit of time to clear my mind.
That was it. That was all I needed. Two hours to myself in a quiet, cozy space. No interruptions. I felt so much more relaxed by the time my reading hours were up!

The assignment for Week 41 is to Doodle.
j explains that “doodling isn’t the same as drawing. It’s a game in which there is no object, an art form with no rules, which makes doing it badly or wrong impossible. The dictionary defines a doodle as “idle scribbling.” Seriously. What could be more harmless (and wonderful) than that? Doodles are like little wordless poems or sparkling fragments of dreams.”
I completely agree with this. And, I seriously need to do this in the following week. It’ll help ground me, I’m sure, while doodling something cute.
In case you’re still shaking your head “No!” at the thought of doodling something yourself, j has some lovely coloring pages up on her website which you could print out for yourself and have fun with. Who knows, you might like them and want her “Art Out Loud” coloring book, either as a physical book, or as an instant download!

How was your week? Did you start a new practice? What did you start? Was it easy to keep with it, or did you struggle? Will you keep this practice, or did it turn out to not be as fun/essential/useful as you first thought?

PS: If you’re interested in joining us, you don’t have to have the e-guide to play, but if you’d like it, you can buy it in the shop.

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