Posts tagged ‘life’s stage’

2017, September 29

Feelings can get hurt, so think before you talk

I am at a point in my life where my bullshit-radar is on “high”, and I get frustrated with people who speak before they think things through. Here’s a few examples:

Pets are family to me, and if anything happens to them I will be sad. For weeks on end. And you saying “Stop being sad, it was just an animal.” will bring resentment from my part, even though I can understand that not everyone thinks and feels the same way I do.

Replying with “Oh, but who’s going to feed the cat?” when asked about going on a trip together with the person who usually feeds your cat is probably going to result in me looking at you like you’ve gone insane. I will also need to find someone else other than them to feed my cat, so if this is your first thought out loud, I am already regretting asking and will look less forward to the trip.

Having lunch with colleagues can be fun. The moment one of them makes a snotty remark about the cheap food I happen to eat five days in a row because I am on a tight budget and have no time to cook myself a yummy-er lunch, I will stop having lunch with them. Simple.

Same goes for colleagues who only talk about their team issues and project during lunchtime. I have nothing to add to those conversations, so if I want to sit and eat without talking to someone because they’re immersed in team-talk, I can do that on the balcony by myself and enjoy the fresh air at least.

Telling me, an unmarried and supposedly friend of yours, that “I don’t know who to ask as bridesmaids, all my friends are married” will hurt my feelings. Very much so. Especially if my boyfriend is a best man in said wedding and aside from feeling left out it also keeps us apart for half a day.

All of these result in getting my feelings hurt, actually, and as only one of the above happened this year, it seems that they hurt me enough to still think about it. Over-thinker with a mild case of OCD at her best… Here’s hoping this little rant-y post helped clear my head of these.

I’m sure you’ve had your fair share of such comments and questions in your lifetime. What was your worst one?

2011, June 13

Rush into oncoming traffic

Courage is a choice. A big one for that matter.

After watching one of Bernardo’s vlogs, I commented with the following sentences:

A friend of mine recently told me I must be so courageous for rushing into oncoming traffic the way I did when I was heading for tutoring (and running late). I kiddingly told her it’s either that or I had a death wish ;-)
But it made me think about something I once read about courage – that it’s not the absence of fear but what we do in spite being afraid.
What ever the case may be, choosing to – rush into oncoming traffic, say something you might be misunderstood because of or which might hurt someone, write that email you’re dreading, quit that job, say "No." to something/someone, or just leap into life
[and live it fully] – it all takes courage and we must also choose to not let fear stop us!

As I look back, one of the sentences that I used most frequently over these past few weeks is “I don’t know.” And that sentence, that fact, makes me feel discombobulated, uneasy and flat out scared.
Because who doesn’t like (even a false sense of) control? Not knowing takes all that away.

However, despite the way it makes me feel, no matter how it makes me look at the world and the future, I’m choosing to allow myself only one thing in situations like this.
One thing, which defines what courage is to me right now: rushing into oncoming traffic. On all Life’s stages. On a daily basis.

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