Posts tagged ‘thoughts’

2017, October 20

Dear Friday, 20.October.2017

Grief sometimes weighs us down more than it should.

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2017, September 29

Feelings can get hurt, so think before you talk

I am at a point in my life where my bullshit-radar is on “high”, and I get frustrated with people who speak before they think things through. Here’s a few examples:

Pets are family to me, and if anything happens to them I will be sad. For weeks on end. And you saying “Stop being sad, it was just an animal.” will bring resentment from my part, even though I can understand that not everyone thinks and feels the same way I do.

Replying with “Oh, but who’s going to feed the cat?” when asked about going on a trip together with the person who usually feeds your cat is probably going to result in me looking at you like you’ve gone insane. I will also need to find someone else other than them to feed my cat, so if this is your first thought out loud, I am already regretting asking and will look less forward to the trip.

Having lunch with colleagues can be fun. The moment one of them makes a snotty remark about the cheap food I happen to eat five days in a row because I am on a tight budget and have no time to cook myself a yummy-er lunch, I will stop having lunch with them. Simple.

Same goes for colleagues who only talk about their team issues and project during lunchtime. I have nothing to add to those conversations, so if I want to sit and eat without talking to someone because they’re immersed in team-talk, I can do that on the balcony by myself and enjoy the fresh air at least.

Telling me, an unmarried and supposedly friend of yours, that “I don’t know who to ask as bridesmaids, all my friends are married” will hurt my feelings. Very much so. Especially if my boyfriend is a best man in said wedding and aside from feeling left out it also keeps us apart for half a day.

All of these result in getting my feelings hurt, actually, and as only one of the above happened this year, it seems that they hurt me enough to still think about it. Over-thinker with a mild case of OCD at her best… Here’s hoping this little rant-y post helped clear my head of these.

I’m sure you’ve had your fair share of such comments and questions in your lifetime. What was your worst one?

2017, September 8

Study

I conducted a very exact study a few days ago while waiting to meet with someone, and my findings are as follows:

  • 13 out of 20 people will try to jump (unsuccessfully) over a large puddle spreading across the sidewalk
  • 5 out of 20 people will strut right through said puddle
  • 2 out of 20 people will take the time to actually go around it.
2017, August 11

Do we have enough fun?

A while back, I read Giulietta Nardone’s blog post, Fun. Do You Really Have Enough Of It In Your Life?and copied her suggestions into a blog post of my own as a reminder, and to share with you guys as well. Obviously, I forgot all about it.

Until today. I was doing some light cleaning among my draft blog posts and after re-reading Giulietta’s words, decided to type away.

“If you would like more fun in your life, here are a few suggestions.

  1. Take charge of your own life.
  2. Make a list of what you like to do.
  3. Do things on that list.
  4. Make a list of things you don’t like to do.
  5. Don’t do things on that list unless you absolutely have to.
  6. Confront the mantra that you have to be serious most of the time. Or always at the beck and call of others.
  7. Figure out if your current activities are real fun or fake fun. It’s possible to be conditioned to believe that you are having fun, when deep down you know you are not, but don’t want to “rock the boat.”
  8. Rock the boat. It might seem scary at first. In time, it will be a blast.
  9. Decide to say no to things that are not fun.
  10. Decide to say yes to things that are fun or new things that could be fun.
  11. Ask everyone in your family what they find fun and try to find ways for cross fun activities to happen. Children and adults are equally important for the health and well being of a family.
  12. Put money away in your “have fun cookie jar.”
  13. Make time for fun things first.
  14. Forget what others think. They are not living your life.”

A blog post I wrote six years ago also came to mind, where I noted what I found fun in the past, at 10 years old, and how they turned into present-day’s having fun and achievements (I updated the list with a couple of items this year).

It took a few years, but I am doing my best to do mostly enjoyable things. I run and sign up for running events, I cycle, ice skate, watch movies or read, write… if friends seem draining, I make other plans, and if someone can’t join me for drinks or any activity I want to do, I do it alone.

There are two big lessons I learned in 30 years:
Stop waiting for other people when I want to do something, and just because no one else joins in doesn’t mean I won’t have fun alone.

What do you find fun? What do you still find fun from the things you used to do as a child? What do you find fun now as an adult?

2017, July 14

What I didn’t like about a charity event

Recently I attended a bake sale-type charity event which left me feeling a teensy bit resentful.

First off, I arrived late. Most of the people had already left, but the sale was still going on which made me happy.
There were all sorts of goodies which looked delicious. Each of the items was assigned a price. I helped myself to a few sweets like cookies, homemade chocolate, and a glass of lemonade.

My total was about 15 lei, and I went over to one of the girls organizing the event to pay. I wanted to tell her to give me change from 30 lei. I handed over my 50 lei bill.
The girl said “Thank you so much! Help yourself to more goodies if you want!” and immediately turned her back to me, walking away to put the money with the rest of the donations. I stood there for a few seconds waiting, thinking how I didn’t even get a word out, but that maybe she was going to come back with change. Well, she didn’t. She put the money away, and went on talking to someone else.

Now, I know people don’t go to bake sales thinking the prices will be the same as in a coffee shop (where they’re way high already, honestly, but that’s a different conversation.) But, I didn’t know it was also a “no change” kind of deal.
If I handed over a 100 lei or 200 lei bill she still wouldn’t have brought me back change? Especially since she saw what I was buying per se and knew it wasn’t adding up to the amount I handed her.
There were donation jars on the table, making sure customers had every possible opportunity to hand over some extra money. So, at least have the decency to ask “How much change would you like?” or something along those lines if you want to encourage people to donate more than the exact price of the items they buy.

Second, the lemonade was crap. I had to add 5 packets of sugar, pour it into a glass twice taller than my original one to fill with water, and it was still barely drinkable. And I wasted about ten minutes trying to get the lemon seeds out.
The person who made that lemonade really mocked the whole charity idea in my opinion.

Resentful or being mocked is not how a charity event should leave one feeling. Here’s hoping you have the guts to say something if you notice similar things at a charity event you might attend.
I didn’t. So it’s my own fault, I know. In the end, it really was for a good cause and the money was put to good use.

Next time, however, I need to remember to call people out when they are being ignorant.

2017, July 7

Dear Friday, 7.July.2017

seriously? 26 Celsius when I went for my run at 10PM? You need to work on that…

2017, June 30

Goodbye and good luck!

The card below I received from the wonderful people I worked for/with, from the UK.

I visited their offices for handover of my work, and aside from the fact that out of a five people team I was the only one invited to do my handover sessions on site, I was floored that everyone there was genuinely interested how I was doing and if I have found another project starting July. I did, just for the record, a pretty interesting one, yet the gestures still made me all teary.

Thank you for the best two and a half work years of my life (so far)! I will truly miss working for you!

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